I would think, that in 2013, people would finally have realized that parenting isn’t a ‘one size fits all’ issue. Just like religion. But I won’t go there today. And I won’t link to Matt Walsh’s asinine blog post that incited my rant today either. It really doesn’t deserve the traffic. While I get where he’s coming from, I just want to say that it’s time for the Mommy Wars to end. Unless you are neglecting, beating or otherwise mistreating your child, I don’t give a shit how they are raised. And you shouldn’t give a shit how I raise mine, either. It’s none of your business. I shouldn’t feel the need to defend my choice to work out of the home. No mother should ever have to defend such choices. Ever.
As parents, we have tiny humans that rely on us to set a good example for them. What kind of example are you setting? Do you want your littles to grow up judging the choices of everyone around them? Will they put themselves up on a pedestal high above anyone who chooses to live a different life? Where does it end? I’ll tell you where – it ends with you. Before you take it upon yourself to be the parenting police, think how your child will be affected by your actions. Would you want them behaving the same way? If the answer is yes, then clearly the problem begins with you as well. Take a long look in the mirror and reflect on that for a while.
Parenting is hard enough as it is and to pile social struggles on top of that just makes the load so much harder to bear. We should be supporting each other because we all know the internal and external struggles that parenting brings.
Let’s hang up our boxing gloves, umkay? It’s time to stop the Mommy War insanity.
Amen sistah!
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Love this. I guess my only beef is that I am sadly surrounded by a few people in my life, well, ‘circle of friends’ who are simply insecure people and will always be that way. Luckily, my husband and I rarely hang out with them. These mommies are hard working and great moms, and moms-to-be, but I see a contradicting and hypocritical side to them–whenever I am around them. I feel they are always judging; yet, god forbid someone judges them. Worst part- the one mom and soon mom-to-be act like they have to be in competition with one another when they are around each other but when the one is not around, they always talk about each other.
At the end of the day, I’m not a fan of both women. I am about to be a first-time mom in 3 weeks. I can’t worry about people like that and I can and will only to my best every single day. I’m also having a girl. 🙂 Thanks for listening!
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Thanks so much for reading!! Congrats on your soon to be little girl. It’s a wild ride, this motherhood thing. Maybe that’s why this competition thing is so rampant? Not everyone handles a wild ride the same way. Some buckle in and love the bumps and jerks. Others hold on tight, teeth clenched and eyes squeezed shut. I do hope you find some solid support once your little arrives. Trust me, having a connection with other adults will help maintain some of your sanity. XO
Thank you!!
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