She's pretty crazy - not sure I can handle another one.
Ava was planned. Well, as best you can plan having a baby. When I hit 29, I began to have a baby panic. We lived a pretty sweet lifestyle up until then. We traveled several times a year, went out several times a week, went to concerts, bought whatever we wanted, but I felt like I was missing something.
“I don’t want to be an old mom,” I would tell my husband.
We were financially stable, I was done with school and we both had long-term jobs with solid benefits, and so, I got off the pill. After more than a year of trying which lead down a very rocky emotional road partly the fault of a group of very unsupportive friends, we finally got pregnant.
I know exactly when it happened, too. You see, it was my husband’s birthday. He hates celebrating birthdays, but I’m a party planner extraordinaire. I set up a gathering at his favorite pub with about 20 of our friends. We had a blast. The party moved from the pub to our favorite neighborhood bar. We had such a great time that night. You know I’m having a good time when I dance, and dance I did! In a bar. That doesn’t have dancing. To Better Than Ezra.
Long story short, we conceived Ava that night. I believe I actually felt the implantation. Could have been the booze, but I’m pretty sure I did.
Now, Ava will be five in November. We haven’t been in a strong situation for the past couple of years. I started a master’s program and switched jobs a couple of times. NASA is having all kinds of layoffs and we never know what is going to happen with our jobs. But, I would like to have another baby soon before it’s too far down the road.
At this point, Ava would be almost six years older than baby #2. Is it worth it now? I want her to have a brother or a sister – a partner in crime. I’m afraid that it’s just too late for that. I’m one of five and we are all so far apart that I’m not close to any of my brothers. Well, that’s not the only reason, but it is a contributing factor.
What do you think about timing children? Have I waited too long? Is it really never the right time?
I know when Whitney was around that age she would ask about having a brother or sister. I know she wishes she had one. It was hard to explain to her that I can’t have kids. I definitely wouldn’t wait too much longer though. My sister and I are ten years apart and unfortunately we are not very close. We get along fine and love each other but it’s not the typical brother-sister relationship.
Oh Tommy, I’m so sorry to hear that you can’t have kids. Whitney seems like a great little girl though!
I vote for never the right time. My children are 6 years apart and they aren’t the kind of playmates they could be, but they do enjoy each other on occasion. My big kid treats the little kid like a nuisance 2/3 of the time and like a toy the other 1/3. But they love each other and I wouldn’t change any of it.
I think Ava would be very jealous. I’m mostly worried about that. But in the long run, it would be worth it.
Ours are 6 years apart.
Do it 🙂
Does it seem to work for you? I’m not sure Ava would dig someone taking away her mommy for anything. I’m a little concerned about that.
If you want another baby, go for it! There never is a perfect time. I got pregnant with my daughter much sooner than I expected and had no job security, but I really believe it worked out for the best. So just do it. (Tee hee!)
I’m such a planner that I just cannot commit to it just now. Maybe next year…
Love this question you posed about timing & children. I have had my older two in my early teens & adopted in my mid thirties. Like you my youngest is almost five. There are definitely give and takes to both.
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